Rationalizing, or excuse making, is a manipulation tactic. The strategy is simple: get someone to buy into your “explanations,” and your behavior takes on a whole different light. Your intentions look less sinister. And you don’t look so bad in character. Wow! Do bad things, and look good doing them! Now, that’s quite a feat!
Manipulators are covert-aggressors. Such characters can make you feel crazy. In your gut, you know something is not right with them. But somehow they make you feel irrational for thinking so. Check out the wonderful video on the topic included below.
Knowledge is power. But to be fully empowered you have to understand what’s really going on with someone and how to appropriately interpret and label their behavior. That’s why it’s so important to understand certain psychological terms and concepts correctly.
When disturbed characters make excuses, they’re really making a very conscious attempt to cast themselves in a more favorable light while manipulating others into seeing their point of view.
If someone’s behavior is wrong or harmful, the rationale they offer for it is totally irrelevant.