Wants and needs are not the same things. And sometimes what we crave, no matter how badly, is the last thing we truly need.
You can sum up what all major life turnarounds require in one word: willingness.
People, places, and things can’t possibly make us happy. But we can keep happy company with them. Finding our own happiness first is the key.
There is a way of living that supersedes the pleasure principle. But it’s not a way of living that comes naturally.
Conquering our small, ego-driven selves is what true self mastery is all about.
No one makes a major life course-correction without submitting to a higher power or operating principle. But narcissists have a big problem with that.
Not all undisciplined behavior represents a genuine addiction. And while there are some rare exceptions, most true addictions don’t just develop overnight. There’s a typical pathway to getting “hooked.” And that pathway is littered with many clear warning signs. Healthy characters respect and heed those signs. But underdeveloped characters tend to ignore or disregard them. That’s why character, and mastering character’s “sixth command,” is so important.
Our gluttony isn’t just about food. From sex to money, we want more of just about everything. And nothing really satisfies. Moreover, anything we can get too easily and do too often can become an “addiction.”
Upon hearing the term “disorder,” many folks infer that a genuine disease process is at work that in some measure relieves a person from full culpability. But in fact only a handful of clinical illnesses can potentially render a person not fully responsible for their behavior.
If you believe many of the things you read and hear about these days, just about everyone suffers from some kind of addiction. And despite how commonplace it’s become, I’m always a bit shocked (and outraged) when some disturbed character claims victim status by blaming his or her reprehensible conduct on an addiction of some … Continue reading Addiction, Codependence, PTSD, Anxiety and Self-Esteem