Category Archives: Abuse

Desensitization and the Death of Outrage

To restore some sanity to our lives we need to recoup a proper sense of outrage. That means making matter again what we unwittingly allowed ourselve to become numb to. Some things simply can’t be okay with us anymore. The stakes are too great and the costs are too high. And it’s these very matters I’d like to make the focus of the next YouTube live stream edition of Character Matters, the date for which I’ll announce in a few weeks. 

Falling Under and Getting Out from Under a Spell

Falling under a spell is a real phenomenon, possessing elements of gaslighting and hypnosis, and can happen actively or passively.

Distorted Self Appraisal and Narcissism

Distorted self appraisal is a cardinal feature of narcissism. But grandiosity isn’t always a compensation for underlying feelings of low self-worth.

Malignant Narcissists Always Pose High Risk

Malignant narcissists are inherently dangerous characters. They can be good actors and covert. But they always exploit and abuse.

Charming Charismatic Narcissists Seduce

Charm and charisma are powerful personal attributes. By themselves, they are neither positive or negative qualities. Character makes all the difference. Decent folks with charm and charisma can move mountains and do a lot of good, whereas charming, charismatic narcissists inevitably cause harm.

Playing on Your Good Nature

Good-natured people don’t want to believe the worst. And they doubt their own gut hunches when something tells them they’re being played.

The Hidden Power in Manipulation Tactics

There’s hidden power in manipulation tactics, which is just one reason why these persuasion tools are so effective.

Egos Out of Control Always Destroy

We need our egos to navigate an often hostile, unloving world. And we need ego to mediate our baser instincts, too. But an ego too full of itself is always a problem, a destroyer of relationships, and often, of societies, too.