Emotionally dependent folks gravitate toward those appearing strong, confident, capable, etc. Narcissists see opportunity in this dynamic.
Relationship deception is one of the major reasons marriages and other intimate arrangements fall apart or end in heartbreak.
People, places, and things can’t possibly make us happy. But we can keep happy company with them. Finding our own happiness first is the key.
Affirmation dependency is overly relying on external sources for validation of one’s worth. You develop it by not properly understanding what your worth genuinely is and where it stems from.
Amiable narcissists come across as lovers. But genuine lovers care about you, whereas narcissists only really care about themselves.
Because they lack empathy, denigration of others is pure sport for narcissists. They readily enjoy gratifying themselves at the expense of others.
The human heart is a precious commodity, and the tenderest hearts are the most easily broken. Folks used to spend a lot of time vetting a potential intimate relationship partner’s character, but sadly, character vetting has become a lost art.
While character disturbance is widepread, it occurs along spectra of both type and degree. Not every empathy-impaired person is a psychopath. And not all folks with narcissistic traits and tendencies are the same. Getting the right information and finding the right help can be a real challenge.
Character-impaired folks inevitably use and abuse others. And the more they lack conscience and empathy, the more seriously they’re likely to use and abuse.
Shame can be certainly be a bad thing. And some shame is truly toxic. But in our days of rampant character dysfunction, shamelessness is a much bigger problem than too much shame. The most disturbed characters among us are the most shameless.