Charm and charisma are powerful personal attributes. By themselves, they are neither positive or negative qualities. Character makes all the difference. Decent folks with charm and charisma can move mountains and do a lot of good, whereas charming, charismatic narcissists inevitably cause harm.
Good-natured people don’t want to believe the worst. And they doubt their own gut hunches when something tells them they’re being played.
Most bullies enjoy demeaning, torturing, belittling, etc. It gives them a feeling of power and a sense of superiority. Worse, to them, it’s fun!
There’s hidden power in manipulation tactics, which is just one reason why these persuasion tools are so effective.
We all have the power to make this a less violent world. The answer lies in character.
We need our egos to navigate an often hostile, unloving world. And we need ego to mediate our baser instincts, too. But an ego too full of itself is always a problem, a destroyer of relationships, and often, of societies, too.
Gaslighting by conspiracy happens when a covert abuser persuades others that they’re the good guy and you’re the crazy one.
Toxic relationship recovery is always challenging and often complicated. And the aftermath of a toxic relationship can be just as challenging as the relationship itself.
Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey. In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love
Expoloitative narcissists almost always have a selfish, hidden agenda when they “love bomb” or otherwise seduce you. They might show great interest in you, which can be highly intoxicating. However, their interest is almost always self-serving. And, sadly, too many folks these days mistake interest for regard.