Category Archives: Abuse

Empowered Living in the Here and Now

Abuse victims and toxic relationship survivors are used to doing all the suffering while their tormentors seem to get off scott free. But with time and dedicated rehearsing, survivors can cultivate empowering habits. And when they remember the all-important task of self-reinforcing their efforts, the quest for empowered living gets a bit easier.

Avoid Self-Blame to Maximally Empower

Self-blame in the aftermath of a toxic relationship is common. Victims blame themselves for not realizing things sooner and for tolerating things too long.

Adult Children of Gaslighters

Adult children of gaslighters often have an impaired sense of self. Accordingly, such folks tend to be the covert narcissist’s favorite prey.

When Covert Narcissists Gaslight Children

Covert narcissists gaslight their children in many ways. And this does great psychological damage, often leading to a lifetime of self-doubt.

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents

Adult children of narcissistic parents can spend years overcoming the effects of childhood gaslighting. And they can unwittingly repeat harmful patterns.

Narcissistic Charm Can Easily Blindside

Narcissists can be quite charming. And charmers know how to make you feel special, important. But someone’s interest in you doesn’t mean they have genuine regard for you. Victims in abusive and exploitative relationships unfortunately learn this too late.

Helplessness Need Not Become Hopelessness

When it comes to relationships with disturbed characters, knowing why you feel helpless, and redirecting your attention and energy where you truly have power changes the whole game.

Understanding Narcissistic Rage

Victims of narcissistic rage rightfully experience intimidation. In their hearts, they know what a person determined to have the dominant position is capable of. And they know what can happen if they dare to say “no,” or refuse to be subordinate. But living in fear of a narcissist’s rage caries its own price.