Category Archives: Abuse

Love Bombing Is Covert Aggression

Love bombing has little to do with genuine love. It’s a tactic to charm, disarm, and seduce you into doing what you otherwise might not.

Malformed Conscience and Character Disturbance

When a malformed conscience, virtually nonexistent conscience, or absent conscience lies defines someone’s character pathology, intervening in traditional ways is futile. That’s why it’s so important that toxic relationship survivors, who have most likely already endured years of gaslighting and other trauma, get the right kind of help should they manage to drag their character-impaired partner into therapy.

The Grandiose Narcissist’s Image is Built on Lies

The grandiose narcissist’s image is built on lies. The lack of substance underneath is not the cause of the lies, it’s the result!

Reverence for the Truth and Character Integrity

Reverence for the truth is crucial to integrity of character.

Discerning Character Requires Certain Skills

Discerning decency of character in our times is a challenge. With all manner of character dysfuntion “normalized,” we’ve largely become desensitized, even to the most egregious forms.

Narcissistic Pomposity and Pretense

Pomposity and pretense are common in narcissists. Sometimes, it’s an act. But it can also reflect grandiose, nearly delusional beliefs.

Narcissistic Rages and Their Forms and Causes

Narcissistic rages are common in abusive relationships. But characterizing every rager as “thin-skinned” is a potentially fatal mistake.

Charm and the Potential for Harm

Charm should generally sound an alarm, because its aim is to disarm, and that always carries the potential for harm, whether intended or not.

Narcissists Exaggerate Just About Everything

Narcissists exaggerate to advance their image-promoting agendas. Tolerating or enabling this behavior harms everyone, even the narcissist.

The Many Forms of Violence

There are many forms of violence. Physical, emotional, and verbal, are just a few. But all violence harms, and fuels a destructive cycle.