Malignant narcissists are inherently dangerous characters. They can be good actors and covert. But they always exploit and abuse.
Charm and charisma are powerful personal attributes. By themselves, they are neither positive or negative qualities. Character makes all the difference. Decent folks with charm and charisma can move mountains and do a lot of good, whereas charming, charismatic narcissists inevitably cause harm.
We need our egos to navigate an often hostile, unloving world. And we need ego to mediate our baser instincts, too. But an ego too full of itself is always a problem, a destroyer of relationships, and often, of societies, too.
Some disturbed characters exhibit a pathology that goes well beyond their narcissism. The folks I call the “aggressive personalities” fit this category.
Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey. In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love
A Healthy Heart A healthy heart is a ultimately a heart at peace. It’s a heart both warm and open. To have such a heart is to have just about everything. But sadly, in our times, too many hearts are aching, broken and bruised, and longing for so much more. Unhealthy hearts are just one … Continue reading A Healthy Conscience Makes a Healthy Heart
Some disturbed characters are nearly or totally without conscience. Such folks are very dangerous, especially if given the reins of power.
Wanting power and control over things in your life is not an inherently bad thing. But the unscrupulous ways some characters go about this can devastate a relationship.
Beware of the smug and the glib. Smooth talkers and smooth operators are often among the more malignant narcissists. Trust your gut and dismiss any seemingly superficial charm and seduction.
In the shallowness of today’s culture, many find themselves virtually starving for love. Languishing in relationships they once believed seemed a passport to unending joy, too many find themselves depressed, hurting, questioning, and spiritually dying! But there is hope! Love is and always has been the answer. But for it to transform and enrich your life, you have to know what genuine love really is.