Cultivating character has no shortcuts. Healthy socialization is a longer and more arduous process for humans than for any other species.
How Culture Influences Character Culture influences character development in many ways. Various values, norms, and traditions largely define a culture. And cultures invariably promote these things and their embrace by constituents. (Cultures also tend to punish failures to embrace these things!) Consequently, culture has a lot to do with the attitudes folks form and the … Continue reading Culture Influences Character and Vice-Versa
What Laws Can’t Fix Laws never permanently fix social problems. And perhaps the proof lies in the numbers. There are millions of laws on the books. Conscientious folks don’t behave themselves merely because of them. And the bad actors among us have always either ignored them or found a way around them. (See: Another Aggressive Personality … Continue reading Laws Can’t Fix What Only Character Can
Forging good character is inherently hard work. So, you have to have the heart for it.
Covert personalities are not who they appear to be. They know how to look good but don’t care much about actually being good. By the time you figure out who they really are, you’ve already invested much and a lot of damage has been done.
Hot headed characters in relationships are notoriously problematic. They’re easily irritated and can’t seem to regain control once they lose their temper. They might promise to behave better the next time. But that time never comes. All seems well when they have their way. But when they feel denied or confronted – watch out!
The more character disturbed someone is, the more problematic it is when they seek dominance.
Narcissists cannot really love because they can’t get beyond themselves. Some can charm convincingly, making you think it’s all about you. But when you scratch below the surface, you’ll find that it’s always really about them.
Wants and needs are not the same things. And sometimes what we crave, no matter how badly, is the last thing we truly need.
We all want the disturbed characters we know to have a change of mind. We want them to see things differently – as we and others see them. And we want them to behave differently, too, like most of the responsible people we know. But mostly we want them to WANT to see and do things differently. And that, of course, is a matter of heart.