Category Archives: Intimacy

Vetting Character Is Challenging But Necessary

Adequately vetting a potential relationship partner’s character is more challenging and more important today than ever.

Heart Thieves Know What to Say and Do

Heart thieves know just what to say and do to win you over. But whether they have the character to truly love you is quite another matter.

Conspiracy Gaslighting Takes a Heavy Toll

Gaslighting by conspiracy happens when a covert abuser persuades others that they’re the good guy and you’re the crazy one.

Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love

Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey.  In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love

Exploitative Narcissists Won’t or Can’t Care

Expoloitative narcissists almost always have a selfish, hidden agenda when they “love bomb” or otherwise seduce you. They might show great interest in you, which can be highly intoxicating. However, their interest is almost always self-serving. And, sadly, too many folks these days mistake interest for regard.

Wholesome Relationships Require Character

Wholesome Relationships Wholesome relationships are hard to come by these days. That’s because such relationships depend on character. And in our times, both decency and maturity of character are in short supply. You have to be mature in your own character to even have a chance at a wholesome relationship. That is, you have to … Continue reading Wholesome Relationships Require Character

Genuinely Loving Relationships Heal and Grow

No amount of caring can magically bring to health a person of disturbed mindset and heart. But genuinely loving relationships can go a long way toward helping heal old wounds and facilitating positive personal growth.

Character and the Abuse of Power

Wanting power and control over things in your life is not an inherently bad thing. But the unscrupulous ways some characters go about this can devastate a relationship.

Finding True Love in the Right Way and Place

Finding true love in character-impaired times is most challenging. But knowing where to look and what to look for makes the task a bit easier. Of course, character is key.