Category Archives: Intimacy

Loving Boundaries Versus Unloving Barriers

While some boundaries are both necessary and genuinely loving, others are inherently problematic.

Falling Under and Getting Out from Under a Spell

Falling under a spell is a real phenomenon, possessing elements of gaslighting and hypnosis, and can happen actively or passively.

Character Matters Live Broadcast May 1

Character Matters will be broadcast live on 5-1-24 at 10am CDT. Join the conversation from any computer or smart device via this link: https://streamyard.com/i4y22cn4eu.

Vetting Character Is Challenging But Necessary

Adequately vetting a potential relationship partner’s character is more challenging and more important today than ever.

Heart Thieves Know What to Say and Do

Heart thieves know just what to say and do to win you over. But whether they have the character to truly love you is quite another matter.

Conspiracy Gaslighting Takes a Heavy Toll

Gaslighting by conspiracy happens when a covert abuser persuades others that they’re the good guy and you’re the crazy one.

Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love

Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey.  In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love

Exploitative Narcissists Won’t or Can’t Care

Expoloitative narcissists almost always have a selfish, hidden agenda when they “love bomb” or otherwise seduce you. They might show great interest in you, which can be highly intoxicating. However, their interest is almost always self-serving. And, sadly, too many folks these days mistake interest for regard.

Wholesome Relationships Require Character

Wholesome Relationships Wholesome relationships are hard to come by these days. That’s because such relationships depend on character. And in our times, both decency and maturity of character are in short supply. You have to be mature in your own character to even have a chance at a wholesome relationship. That is, you have to … Continue reading Wholesome Relationships Require Character