Category Archives: Intimacy

The Amorous Vulnerable Covert Narcissist

The amorous vulnerable covert narcissist can come across as loving. With ego massage, charm, and connective skill, they’ll steal your heart. But it’s never really about you. It’s about what you can do for them.

Narcissistic Characters and Character Disorders

Narcissistic characters run the gamut, from relatively benign “amorous,” “charming,” types to heartless and predatory types.

Mistaking Interest for Regard in Relationships

Mistaking interest for regard is all too common these days. It’s how folks with high hopes at the beginning of a relationship sadly later find themselves exploited and abused.

Covert Self-Monitoring and Reinforcement

Our high capacity to learn distinguishes us humans. And even some character-impaired individuals can choose to grow. But no new learning takes deep root without reinforcement.

Narcissistic Charm Can Easily Blindside

Narcissists can be quite charming. And charmers know how to make you feel special, important. But someone’s interest in you doesn’t mean they have genuine regard for you. Victims in abusive and exploitative relationships unfortunately learn this too late.

Healthy Relationships Require Genuine Regard

Healthy Relationships Healthy relationships are a rare commodity these days. Relationships can begin with a bang, then quickly lose their appeal. Some relationships that initially seem so harmonious somehow eventually become contentious. Relationships born of great passion and fervor can become dull or devoid of energy. And even relationships that seem founded on positive regard … Continue reading Healthy Relationships Require Genuine Regard

Recognizing and Overcoming Intimacy Barriers

Intimacy barriers are the biggest reason couples seek counseling. And when counseling fails it’s usually because the true impediments to intimacy weren’t properly identified or dealt with.