Category Archives: conscience

Malignant Narcissists Always Pose High Risk

Malignant narcissists are inherently dangerous characters. They can be good actors and covert. But they always exploit and abuse.

Playing on Your Good Nature

Good-natured people don’t want to believe the worst. And they doubt their own gut hunches when something tells them they’re being played.

Vetting Character Is Challenging But Necessary

Adequately vetting a potential relationship partner’s character is more challenging and more important today than ever.

A Healthy Conscience Makes a Healthy Heart

A Healthy Heart A healthy heart is a ultimately a heart at peace. It’s a heart both warm and open. To have such a heart is to have just about everything. But sadly, in our times, too many hearts are aching, broken and bruised, and longing for so much more. Unhealthy hearts are just one … Continue reading A Healthy Conscience Makes a Healthy Heart

It Takes a Village – But What Kind?

For a child – or even an adult – to grow positively in character, it indeed takes a village. But the kind of village matters. A community or culture that promotes attitudes of entitlement, excessive self-focus, instant gratification, poor self-regulation, etc. will only help produce individuals impaired in their capacity to relate to others in wholesome, productive ways. That’s what character disturbance is all about. 

Barriers to Forming a Healthy Conscience

As I’ve asserted in countless workshops: “Internalization of a prohibition is essentially an act of submission.” Narcissists see no need for that. And aggressive personalities fight tooth and nail against it. 

Beyond Egocentrism to Wholesome Character

Mature character demands we outgrow our natural egocentrism. But an entitled, egocentric, narcissistic culture holds many of us back.

Narcissistic Personalities Come in Various Types

With narcissistic personalities, one description does not really fit all. Vulnerable, “compensatory” types are very different from their heartless, “grandiose” counterparts.

Codependency Versus Emotional Dependency

True codependency is widely misunderstood, and often mistaken for emotional dependency, a significant risk factor for abuse and exploitation in relationships.