Because they lack empathy, denigration of others is pure sport for narcissists. They readily enjoy gratifying themselves at the expense of others.
Healthy character is not so much about the gratitude you feel in your heart but more about what you demonstrate with your actions.
While character disturbance is widepread, it occurs along spectra of both type and degree. Not every empathy-impaired person is a psychopath. And not all folks with narcissistic traits and tendencies are the same. Getting the right information and finding the right help can be a real challenge.
Shame can be certainly be a bad thing. And some shame is truly toxic. But in our days of rampant character dysfunction, shamelessness is a much bigger problem than too much shame. The most disturbed characters among us are the most shameless.
The amorous vulnerable covert narcissist can come across as loving. With ego massage, charm, and connective skill, they’ll steal your heart. But it’s never really about you. It’s about what you can do for them.
Extreme narcissistic malignancy characterizes the most disturbed characters among us. They wantonly use and abuse and feel entitled to do so.
Narcissistic malignancy is largely about empathy deficiency and grandiosity. Folks who don’t care and feel superior will wantonly use and abuse.
Narcissistic characters run the gamut, from relatively benign “amorous,” “charming,” types to heartless and predatory types.
It’s harder than ever to adequately define personality and character-related pathology because the spectrum of dysfuntion has become so broad, varied, and normalized.
Character integrity is the degree to which we commit ourselves to important principles and upright conduct.