The urge to expose your covert abuser is natural. But it’s frought with danger and can lead to even greater depression.
Many abusive relationship survivors are at their wits end trying to understand why others are still so positively swayed by the person who treated them so heartlessly. It’s a scenario that produces an intense gaslighting experience.
For some disturbed characters “thinking makes it so.” In other words, reality or truth is what they say it is.
During a remarkable interview, Dr. Carter and I sometimes use different terms, but we describe the same realities – perspectives that differ considerably from those taught during our professional training but which both experience and abundant recent research soundly validate.
Manipulation tactics and gaslighting go hand in hand. In fact, it’s a manipulator’s astute use of tactics that induces the gaslighting effect.
Personal empowerment is largely about appreciating how different looking good is from being good. It’s also about recognizing and understanding the wide spectrum of character disturbance we experience these days and how to deal with it.
In Sheep’s Clothing lifted the veil on covert personalities, their manipulation tactics, and gaslighting. Now the task is to create a less character-impaired world.
Recognizing manipulation tactics when you encounter them, and responding appropriately is key to both sanity and personal empowerment.
Emotional Romeos are masters of seduction. They can sweep you off your feet at first, but they’ll inevitably bring you pain and heartache.
Subtle manipulation almost always causes gaslighting – the crazy-making feeling I first described in the opening pages of my landmark first book, In Sheep’s Clothing. And you suffer this effect because of how long it takes to validate what you suspect is the truth about your manipulator.