Category Archives: gaslighting

Blaming Others Is Not a Defense but a Tactic

Blaming others is not unconscious defense. It’s a conscious tactic to throw you on the defensive while refusing to internalize a behavioral norm.

Is Therapy for Everyone?

Do we all need therapy? Perhaps not. Could most of us benefit from a little therapy? Probably, especially if it’s the right kind.

Do Narcissists Really Believe They’re Always Right?

Behaving Like You’re Always Right Most true narcissists act like they’re always right. And sometimes they can be really convincing about it. They can project a remarkably confident image. Their demeanor seems to make a statement: “I don’t just think I’m right. I know I’m right.” But do they really believe such nonsense? Most folks … Continue reading Do Narcissists Really Believe They’re Always Right?

Covert Self-Monitoring and Reinforcement

Our high capacity to learn distinguishes us humans. And even some character-impaired individuals can choose to grow. But no new learning takes deep root without reinforcement.

Trauma Recovery and the Present Moment

The thoughts running through our head are either secure or insecure, positive or negative. But in any given moment, we have the power to change them. 

When the Mask Comes Off a Covert Character

Under the gaslight, you stop trusting your gut. But once the mask comes off your manipulator you realize your gut was right all along and you’re free to start trusting yourself and your instincts once again.

Adult Children of Gaslighters

Adult children of gaslighters often have an impaired sense of self. Accordingly, such folks tend to be the covert narcissist’s favorite prey.

When Covert Narcissists Gaslight Children

Covert narcissists gaslight their children in many ways. And this does great psychological damage, often leading to a lifetime of self-doubt.

Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents

Adult children of narcissistic parents can spend years overcoming the effects of childhood gaslighting. And they can unwittingly repeat harmful patterns.

Why Narcissists Always Have to Be Right

You may catch a narcissist in a falsehood. But they always seem to have an answer. They’ll twist the facts until the facts fit their narrative. Then they’ll claim the facts prove they they were right all along.