Category Archives: Covert-Aggression

Finding True Love in the Right Way and Place

Finding true love in character-impaired times is most challenging. But knowing where to look and what to look for makes the task a bit easier. Of course, character is key.

Resisting the Urge to Expose a Covert Abuser

The urge to expose your covert abuser is natural. But it’s frought with danger and can lead to even greater depression.

How Some Impression Managers Gaslight

Many abusive relationship survivors are at their wits end trying to understand why others are still so positively swayed by the person who treated them so heartlessly. It’s a scenario that produces an intense gaslighting experience.

The Lying and Deception Spectrum

For some disturbed characters “thinking makes it so.” In other words, reality or truth is what they say it is.

Barriers to Forming a Healthy Conscience

As I’ve asserted in countless workshops: “Internalization of a prohibition is essentially an act of submission.” Narcissists see no need for that. And aggressive personalities fight tooth and nail against it. 

Drs Carter and Simon Discuss All Things Narcissism

During a remarkable interview, Dr. Carter and I sometimes use different terms, but we describe the same realities – perspectives that differ considerably from those taught during our professional training but which both experience and abundant recent research soundly validate.

Manipulation Tactics and Gaslighting

Manipulation tactics and gaslighting go hand in hand. In fact, it’s a manipulator’s astute use of tactics that induces the gaslighting effect.

Looking Good Vs. Being Good: Impression Management 101

Personal empowerment is largely about appreciating how different looking good is from being good. It’s also about recognizing and understanding the wide spectrum of character disturbance we experience these days and how to deal with it.

Manipulation and Gaslighting Early Research

In Sheep’s Clothing lifted the veil on covert personalities, their manipulation tactics, and gaslighting. Now the task is to create a less character-impaired world.

Beyond Egocentrism to Wholesome Character

Mature character demands we outgrow our natural egocentrism. But an entitled, egocentric, narcissistic culture holds many of us back.