Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey. In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love
Some disturbed characters are nearly or totally without conscience. Such folks are very dangerous, especially if given the reins of power.
Wholesome Relationships Wholesome relationships are hard to come by these days. That’s because such relationships depend on character. And in our times, both decency and maturity of character are in short supply. You have to be mature in your own character to even have a chance at a wholesome relationship. That is, you have to … Continue reading Wholesome Relationships Require Character
Folks skilled in manipulation of the heart know what to say or do to win you over. They aim not so much to love you but to get you to be enamored of them.
Lingering gaslighting effects can make you doubt yourself and your judgment even after you’ve come to know better about your partner and their tactics.
Finding true love in character-impaired times is most challenging. But knowing where to look and what to look for makes the task a bit easier. Of course, character is key.
The urge to expose your covert abuser is natural. But it’s frought with danger and can lead to even greater depression.
Many abusive relationship survivors are at their wits end trying to understand why others are still so positively swayed by the person who treated them so heartlessly. It’s a scenario that produces an intense gaslighting experience.
For some disturbed characters “thinking makes it so.” In other words, reality or truth is what they say it is.
Beware of the smug and the glib. Smooth talkers and smooth operators are often among the more malignant narcissists. Trust your gut and dismiss any seemingly superficial charm and seduction.