Malignant narcissists are inherently dangerous characters. They can be good actors and covert. But they always exploit and abuse.
Charm and charisma are powerful personal attributes. By themselves, they are neither positive or negative qualities. Character makes all the difference. Decent folks with charm and charisma can move mountains and do a lot of good, whereas charming, charismatic narcissists inevitably cause harm.
Good-natured people don’t want to believe the worst. And they doubt their own gut hunches when something tells them they’re being played.
Adequately vetting a potential relationship partner’s character is more challenging and more important today than ever.
There’s hidden power in manipulation tactics, which is just one reason why these persuasion tools are so effective.
Heart thieves know just what to say and do to win you over. But whether they have the character to truly love you is quite another matter.
Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey. In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love
Some disturbed characters are nearly or totally without conscience. Such folks are very dangerous, especially if given the reins of power.
Wholesome Relationships Wholesome relationships are hard to come by these days. That’s because such relationships depend on character. And in our times, both decency and maturity of character are in short supply. You have to be mature in your own character to even have a chance at a wholesome relationship. That is, you have to … Continue reading Wholesome Relationships Require Character
Folks skilled in manipulation of the heart know what to say or do to win you over. They aim not so much to love you but to get you to be enamored of them.