The human heart is a precious commodity, and the tenderest hearts are the most easily broken. Folks used to spend a lot of time vetting a potential intimate relationship partner’s character, but sadly, character vetting has become a lost art.
The Emotional Romeo sweep you off your feet. But it’s one thing to desire only to love someone and quite another to be more interested in getting someone to love you.
While character disturbance is widepread, it occurs along spectra of both type and degree. Not every empathy-impaired person is a psychopath. And not all folks with narcissistic traits and tendencies are the same. Getting the right information and finding the right help can be a real challenge.
Pasive-aggressive personalities are very different from their covert-aggressive counterparts. And their manner of coping is incredibly self-defeating as opposed to self-advancing.
A covert actor doesn’t want you to know what they are up to. If you knew, you might object or resist.
Some accomplished fighters aggress in subtle, stealthy tactics that enable them to use and abuse while still looking good. It’s no wonder folks on the receiving end of such behavior feel crazy!
Extreme narcissistic malignancy characterizes the most disturbed characters among us. They wantonly use and abuse and feel entitled to do so.
To become empowered partners in abusive relationships have to see through their manipulator’s tactics, knowing in their heart how to distinguish a victim from a victimizer.
Blaming others is not unconscious defense. It’s a conscious tactic to throw you on the defensive while refusing to internalize a behavioral norm.
Many folks enjoy a healthy and sometimes rewarding or even fulfilling relationship with work. But for disturbed characters work is more than literally a four-letter word, especially when it benefits someone or something else.