During a remarkable interview, Dr. Carter and I sometimes use different terms, but we describe the same realities – perspectives that differ considerably from those taught during our professional training but which both experience and abundant recent research soundly validate.
Some things in life sure do seem like love. And too many come to realize what love really is and isn’t too late in a relationship, when they’ve already invested a lot. The sense of dissapointment, disillusionment, and betrayal that inevitably follows can be a serious soul crusher.
Most pathological lying is tactical lying, for the sole purpose of maintaining a position of advantage to abuse and exploit.
Recognizing manipulation tactics when you encounter them, and responding appropriately is key to both sanity and personal empowerment.
Emotional Romeos are masters of seduction. They can sweep you off your feet at first, but they’ll inevitably bring you pain and heartache.
We once widely regarded truth as the “best policy.” That’s partly because we understood that it always outs in the end. But it’s also because the it mattered to us more than it seems to these days.
Narcissists cannot really love because they can’t get beyond themselves. Some can charm convincingly, making you think it’s all about you. But when you scratch below the surface, you’ll find that it’s always really about them.
For a culture steeped in egocentricity, entitlement, relativism, and permissiveness to change, hearts must change first. But as they do, this age of narcissism will eventually come to an end.
Therapy induced trauma happens when you go for help with hope in your heart, only to feel worse for the effort.
Gaslighting victims feel so much more alone and self-doubting when they find themselves among a sea of folks who view the disturbed character differently.