Discerning decency of character in our times is a challenge. With all manner of character dysfuntion “normalized,” we’ve largely become desensitized, even to the most egregious forms.
Impression management skill and gaslighting often go hand-in-hand. When others don’t see your nemesis the same way you have come to see them, it can make you feel crazy, which is what the gaslighting effect is all about.
Falling under the spell of a charmer can be the beginning of heartbreak. Not all charmers are malevolent. But some will seduce, then use and abuse. Best to beware by being informed.