Good-natured people don’t want to believe the worst. And they doubt their own gut hunches when something tells them they’re being played.
Toxic relationship recovery is always challenging and often complicated. And the aftermath of a toxic relationship can be just as challenging as the relationship itself.
Surviving narcissistic relationship partners requires special knowledge and, often, special help.
Some disturbed characters exhibit a pathology that goes well beyond their narcissism. The folks I call the “aggressive personalities” fit this category.
Relational abuse happens in therapy when a therapist permits abusive “business as usual” between partners or is bamboozled by a manipulator.
For a child – or even an adult – to grow positively in character, it indeed takes a village. But the kind of village matters. A community or culture that promotes attitudes of entitlement, excessive self-focus, instant gratification, poor self-regulation, etc. will only help produce individuals impaired in their capacity to relate to others in wholesome, productive ways. That’s what character disturbance is all about.
Character Matters airs Live at Noon Central Time Wednesday, March 22, 2023.
Many folks who think they’re codependent, or have been labeled so, actually aren’t! Are you one of them? Maybe you’re one of those folks who got manipulated into a situation of forced dependency, making it extra hard for you to break free. Labeling you codependent can be just one more form of abuse.
The character disturbance spectrum is vast, yet poorly understood. But getting it right is essential for true personal empowerment.
For some disturbed characters “thinking makes it so.” In other words, reality or truth is what they say it is.