Making amends for harm done is a duty, to be sure. But the spirit with which one does this noble work of repair testifies to one’s character.
Egocentricity and attitudes of entitlement are normal characteristics of immaturity. Growing beyond these tendencies is the mark of mature character.
Cultivating character has no shortcuts. Healthy socialization is a longer and more arduous process for humans than for any other species.
How Culture Influences Character Culture influences character development in many ways. Various values, norms, and traditions largely define a culture. And cultures invariably promote these things and their embrace by constituents. (Cultures also tend to punish failures to embrace these things!) Consequently, culture has a lot to do with the attitudes folks form and the … Continue reading Culture Influences Character and Vice-Versa
What Laws Can’t Fix Laws never permanently fix social problems. And perhaps the proof lies in the numbers. There are millions of laws on the books. Conscientious folks don’t behave themselves merely because of them. And the bad actors among us have always either ignored them or found a way around them. (See: Another Aggressive Personality … Continue reading Laws Can’t Fix What Only Character Can
I’ll be interviewed for two online seminars this week. Find the links to them in the article below.
Narcissistic abusers bind and trap their victims in many ways. Years of gaslighting leave survivors full of fear and doubt.
A Sound Ego A sound ego is strong one. But it’s also an ego in proper balance. We need our egos to operate in this world. But big problems occur when our egos are unhealthy. So, we need an ego that is strong, balanced, and rightly-purposed. Ego-inflation lies at the heart of most narcissism. Some … Continue reading How a Sound Ego Operates
Wants and needs are not the same things. And sometimes what we crave, no matter how badly, is the last thing we truly need.
We all want the disturbed characters we know to have a change of mind. We want them to see things differently – as we and others see them. And we want them to behave differently, too, like most of the responsible people we know. But mostly we want them to WANT to see and do things differently. And that, of course, is a matter of heart.