The Price of Freedom The price of freedom is steep. Sometimes, it comes at the expense of a human life. That’s something we ponder deeply on Memorial Day. But the benefits of freedom can far outweigh its costs. Still, to ensure those benefits, we must have character. (See: Preserving Freedom Demands Character.) For without character, … Continue reading Memorial Day Reflections on the Price of Freedom
Even when it’s subtle, a narcissist’s rage is a way of saying: “How dare you even think of dethroning me!! Just who do you think you are?”
Our high capacity to learn distinguishes us humans. And even some character-impaired individuals can choose to grow. But no new learning takes deep root without reinforcement.
The thoughts running through our head are either secure or insecure, positive or negative. But in any given moment, we have the power to change them.
Affirm yourself when you recognizing when you recognize old habits or self-defeating cycles. And affirm yourself again for every step in new, positive directions. You’ll be well on your way to more empowered living.
The secret to empowerment is simple, although not easy. But with time, practice, and especially, reinforcement, it becomes easier.
Abuse victims and toxic relationship survivors are used to doing all the suffering while their tormentors seem to get off scott free. But with time and dedicated rehearsing, survivors can cultivate empowering habits. And when they remember the all-important task of self-reinforcing their efforts, the quest for empowered living gets a bit easier.
Under the gaslight, you stop trusting your gut. But once the mask comes off your manipulator you realize your gut was right all along and you’re free to start trusting yourself and your instincts once again.
Covert narcissists gaslight their children in many ways. And this does great psychological damage, often leading to a lifetime of self-doubt.
Adult children of narcissistic parents can spend years overcoming the effects of childhood gaslighting. And they can unwittingly repeat harmful patterns.