Category Archives: Psychological Manipulation

Loving Boundaries Versus Unloving Barriers

While some boundaries are both necessary and genuinely loving, others are inherently problematic.

Falling Under and Getting Out from Under a Spell

Falling under a spell is a real phenomenon, possessing elements of gaslighting and hypnosis, and can happen actively or passively.

Playing on Your Good Nature

Good-natured people don’t want to believe the worst. And they doubt their own gut hunches when something tells them they’re being played.

Vetting Character Is Challenging But Necessary

Adequately vetting a potential relationship partner’s character is more challenging and more important today than ever.

The Hidden Power in Manipulation Tactics

There’s hidden power in manipulation tactics, which is just one reason why these persuasion tools are so effective.

Heart Thieves Know What to Say and Do

Heart thieves know just what to say and do to win you over. But whether they have the character to truly love you is quite another matter.

Conspiracy Gaslighting Takes a Heavy Toll

Gaslighting by conspiracy happens when a covert abuser persuades others that they’re the good guy and you’re the crazy one.

Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love

Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey.  In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love

Character is Ultimately about Love Ability

Just because someone possess the attractive, “lovable” traits to emotionally hook you doesn’t mean they have the capacity to genuinely love you.