Gaslighting by conspiracy happens when a covert abuser persuades others that they’re the good guy and you’re the crazy one.
Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey. In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love
Just because someone possess the attractive, “lovable” traits to emotionally hook you doesn’t mean they have the capacity to genuinely love you.
Relational abuse happens in therapy when a therapist permits abusive “business as usual” between partners or is bamboozled by a manipulator.
Wholesome Relationships Wholesome relationships are hard to come by these days. That’s because such relationships depend on character. And in our times, both decency and maturity of character are in short supply. You have to be mature in your own character to even have a chance at a wholesome relationship. That is, you have to … Continue reading Wholesome Relationships Require Character
Folks skilled in manipulation of the heart know what to say or do to win you over. They aim not so much to love you but to get you to be enamored of them.
Lingering gaslighting effects can make you doubt yourself and your judgment even after you’ve come to know better about your partner and their tactics.
Many folks who think they’re codependent, or have been labeled so, actually aren’t! Are you one of them? Maybe you’re one of those folks who got manipulated into a situation of forced dependency, making it extra hard for you to break free. Labeling you codependent can be just one more form of abuse.
The character disturbance spectrum is vast, yet poorly understood. But getting it right is essential for true personal empowerment.
Finding true love in character-impaired times is most challenging. But knowing where to look and what to look for makes the task a bit easier. Of course, character is key.