Why We Lie – Even to Ourselves
facing the truth can be really painful at times. But to have character you must have the courage to face the truth without denial or deceit.
Category Archives: Spirituality
How Denial Obstructs Character Growth
Human beings are great self-deceivers. But some of us deceive ourselves so earnestly and so often that we begin to believe our falsehoods, and that really gets in the way of our character growth.
Narcissistic Irreverence Begets Haughtiness
Toxic relationships are born of narcissistic irreverence. One simply can’t love what what can’t first appreciate.
Sound Character Requires Reverence
Reverence has more to do with how we relate than the religion we profess. The reverent soul ultimately seeks to elevate humanity. She or he works to preserve what’s good and seeks to make better what needs improving. That starts at the personal level. It’s about becoming a better person and making the world better, too.
How Charming Narcissists Fool You
Charming narcissists turn on the charm for one of two reasons. They might simply crave your attention and admiration. But they also might just have plans to take advantage of you. In either case, the reason they succeed in manipulating you is the same. Victims simply confuse interest with caring.
Vulgar Narcissists Offend While Charmers May Not
Like it or not, we sometimes have to deal with vulgar narcissists. And because they don’t care, we might wonder what good it does to confront them. The answer here lies in the good that can come from outing the truth.
Relationship Intimacy Requires Connection
For relationships to really work and endure, connections have to develop and deepen on multiple levels. Intimacy is always the key.
Finding Joy Amidst the Holiday Blues
For many, the holidays are a time of stress. But there are ways to beat the holiday blues and find the joy again. The secret’s in the spirit of the season.
Gratitude and Thanksgiving Foster Character
Thanksgiving means more than a single holiday. Responsible people render it daily in their undertakings. But in this age of rampant narcissism and entitlement, cultivating gratitude is difficult. So, far too few give thanks with their actions. Rather, they take, use, exploit, and injure – all for their own gratification. And they do such things without compunction because they feel entitled.
I have much for which to be grateful. Your validation and promotion of my work has always inspired and sustained me. It’s impossible to say how much such support means to me. So, from the bottom of my heart, “Thank you!”
Confronting Narcissistic Grandiosity
You can confront compensatory grandiosity with relative ease and safety. The vulnerable narcissist merely seeks reassurance. So, the more you reassure them, the better they inwardly begin to feel about themselves. But you can’t deal with or confront the truly egomaniacal narcissist with the same ease or in the same way.