Finding true love in character-impaired times is most challenging. But knowing where to look and what to look for makes the task a bit easier. Of course, character is key.
The urge to expose your covert abuser is natural. But it’s frought with danger and can lead to even greater depression.
Many abusive relationship survivors are at their wits end trying to understand why others are still so positively swayed by the person who treated them so heartlessly. It’s a scenario that produces an intense gaslighting experience.
For some disturbed characters “thinking makes it so.” In other words, reality or truth is what they say it is.
Beware of the smug and the glib. Smooth talkers and smooth operators are often among the more malignant narcissists. Trust your gut and dismiss any seemingly superficial charm and seduction.
During a remarkable interview, Dr. Carter and I sometimes use different terms, but we describe the same realities – perspectives that differ considerably from those taught during our professional training but which both experience and abundant recent research soundly validate.
Manipulation tactics and gaslighting go hand in hand. In fact, it’s a manipulator’s astute use of tactics that induces the gaslighting effect.
Personal empowerment is largely about appreciating how different looking good is from being good. It’s also about recognizing and understanding the wide spectrum of character disturbance we experience these days and how to deal with it.
Some things in life sure do seem like love. And too many come to realize what love really is and isn’t too late in a relationship, when they’ve already invested a lot. The sense of dissapointment, disillusionment, and betrayal that inevitably follows can be a serious soul crusher.
In Sheep’s Clothing lifted the veil on covert personalities, their manipulation tactics, and gaslighting. Now the task is to create a less character-impaired world.