Recognizing manipulation tactics when you encounter them, and responding appropriately is key to both sanity and personal empowerment.
Subtle manipulation almost always causes gaslighting – the crazy-making feeling I first described in the opening pages of my landmark first book, In Sheep’s Clothing. And you suffer this effect because of how long it takes to validate what you suspect is the truth about your manipulator.
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Narcissistic abusers bind and trap their victims in many ways. Years of gaslighting leave survivors full of fear and doubt.
Folks exiting toxic relationships with character-impaired charmers can easily fall into the trap of spending time and energy trying to get others to see what they came to see the hard way.
Some narcissists primarily want attention. Others just want to be right, justified – affirmed. More pathological narcissists seek adulation. And the most pathological narcissists want to be adored. Legends in their own minds, they consider themselves worthy of worship.
Therapy induced trauma happens when you go for help with hope in your heart, only to feel worse for the effort.
Gaslighting victims feel so much more alone and self-doubting when they find themselves among a sea of folks who view the disturbed character differently.
While someone’s amiability might be what attracts you, their integrity of character will largely determine whether your relationship lasts.
The Emotional Romeo sweep you off your feet. But it’s one thing to desire only to love someone and quite another to be more interested in getting someone to love you.