Tag Archives: manipulation tactics

Playing the Victim Goes Along with Blaming Others

To become empowered partners in abusive relationships have to see through their manipulator’s tactics, knowing in their heart how to distinguish a victim from a victimizer.

Blaming Others Is Not a Defense but a Tactic

Blaming others is not unconscious defense. It’s a conscious tactic to throw you on the defensive while refusing to internalize a behavioral norm.

Covert Self-Monitoring and Reinforcement

Our high capacity to learn distinguishes us humans. And even some character-impaired individuals can choose to grow. But no new learning takes deep root without reinforcement.

When Covert Narcissists Gaslight Children

Covert narcissists gaslight their children in many ways. And this does great psychological damage, often leading to a lifetime of self-doubt.

Unconscious Denial Versus Tactical Denial

Unconscious denial is nature’s defense against unbearable pain. But some denial is tactical – a way to be irresponsible while not looking so bad. To have reverence for the truth and for human dignity, each type must be confronted differently.

The Keys to Self-Empowerment

The main key to self-empowerment is simple: keep your attention, time, and energy focused where you have power.

Understanding Manipulation Tactics

Covert aggressors use manipulation tactics to get their way. They fight in subtle and underhanded ways. And they know how to look good without being good.

Playing the Blame Game Well

Manipulators and other disturbed characters are adept at playing the blame game. But when someone makes the injurious choice, it’s strictly on them. Thy may point the finger elsewhere and try to justify. But you empower yourself when you refuse to take on someone else’s rightful burden.

Confronting Evasion and Diversion Tactics

Manipulators like engaging in evasion and diversion because these tactics keep the spotlight off their behavior. There artful dance around the issues can help them stay one step ahead of you. That’s why it’s so important to confront their tactics head-on.

Surviving A Manipulator and Restoring Your Sanity

Some people fight in very surreptitious ways. The covert maneuvers they employ are effective. They throw others on the defensive while cloaking aggressive intent.  You might suspect something is up but end up doubting yourself. You might even question your sanity. To restore your sanity you have to trust your gut.