In many ways, character is like a psychological immune system, giving us the resources to be less vulnerable to the forces that might otherwise hurt or corrupt us.
Folks whose ways of seeing and doing things are so toxic that they’re rightfully considered “character-disordered” always cause big problems in relationships. And presently, the prognosis for change is extremely poor for the significantly disordered. There’s more hope for the mildly disturbed character, but the motivation and mode of intervention have to be just right!
Narcissistic controllers use and abuse because they regard the people and things they desire as property, doing with them as they please.
You can sum up what all major life turnarounds require in one word: willingness.
Humble, honest self-reckoning is more than liberating. It’s also empowering. Truth, in its essence, is both power and freedom.
Emotionally dependent folks gravitate toward those appearing strong, confident, capable, etc. Narcissists see opportunity in this dynamic.
Supportive relationships have highly recognizable core characteristics that sadly are in short supply in our character-impaired times.
While someone’s amiability might be what attracts you, their integrity of character will largely determine whether your relationship lasts.
These days, too many relationships lack quality and growth potential. And that often includes the relationship we have with ourselves.
People, places, and things can’t possibly make us happy. But we can keep happy company with them. Finding our own happiness first is the key.