The “Sweet Spot”
Being of sincere of heart and purpose doesn’t mean you are naïve or simple-minded. Sincere people don’t simply fail to see or understand life’s complexities. Rather, they behave toward others and themselves out of what their sweet spot. Those of you who play racquet games know what a sweet spot is. Golfers and baseball players know it, too. When you hit a ball from the sweet spot, you get a maximum response for a given amount of effort. You not only get a more powerful stroke but you also generally hit a more reliable shot.
Now it takes a while to even find the sweet spot. Then it takes a lot of skill and practice to access it most every time. Even the best players don’t always hit it. But all good players can always tell when have indeed hit from the sweet spot. And when they do, they get that certain feeling that everything has come together in just the right way. There is nothing like striking from your sweet spot. You not only increase the odds of a technically perfect strike, but the action itself just “feels right.”
Acting with Sincere Heart and Purpose
When you act with sincere heart and purpose, it’s like living out of the sweet spot of your character. You act from the very core or center of your being. It not only feels right, it feels genuine, authentic. And that’s because it is. There’s nothing quite like it. It’s truly coming into contact with the real you. And it’s coming in contact with what’s truly real in life. You act with integrity. Now, this takes mindfulness and the experience of repeatedly acting with purpose and on purpose. It also takes will power.
Will power has received a lot of press lately. And the scientific community has long debated about whether such a thing as will power even exists. But we do know one thing: folks with will power seem to be able to delay gratification. And that’s a really big deal. When you can put aside your desire for immediate satisfaction of a desire, especially, for a higher purpose or for someone else, you’ve achieved an uncommon maturity of character. And having such maturity makes all sorts of things possible that aren’t otherwise possible.
So, as you see, you have to master some of the earlier “commandments” to master this one. (See: Mastering Appetites and Desires) But it’s well worth your while to do so. Authentic, genuine, purposeful people know the incredible feeling of hitting a home run most times at bat. They operate from their sweet spot, the very core of their being. They know what it means to be authentic, present, and alive. There isn’t a better feeling in the world.
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