The Nature of a Humble Heart
What does it mean to be of humble heart? And why is humility so important to character? The tenth “commandment” of sound character exhorts us to be of sincere heart and purpose. But to be of sincere heart, one must first be of humble heart. So what does this mean?
Jesus reportedly asserted that the “poor in spirit” are “blessed.” But a more accurate rendering of this “beatitude” (literally: “happiness”) is that the untethered soul is the soul most truly alive. In our insecurity and in our egos, we often burden ourselves with empty attachments. And we place our trust in the wrong things. We think enough money will buy us safety. We believe if we follow the rules, we’ll be rewarded. Sometimes, we even place our faith in other people, trusting them with our hearts. And this can easily lead so often leads to heartbreak. You have to be willing to leave your belongings behind to lead a life of joy.
Revisiting the “Second Commandment”
The second “commandment” is to be grateful. But to be grateful we have to overcome our sense of entitlement. And that’s really difficult to do in our age of massive entitlement. But, as mentioned before, the commandments work together. You can’t embrace one without understanding and embracing the others. So you can’t embrace the notion of humble living unless you’ve found it in your heart to be truly grateful. (See also: Commandment 2: Humble Gratitude)
The Path to Integrity
Each and every moment of our lives is an unearned gift. And it’s up to us to make every moment count. So, how do we do that? By living each moment mindfully. And by that I mean in communion with the larger reality that connects us all. That reality exists and is present whether we recognize it or not. Some call it God. Others call it the “greater good.” Still others call it a “higher power.” We’ve given it many different names. But whatever you call it, it’s the one reality the narcissists among us refuse to even recognize let alone serve. Truly noble characters place all their trust in that reality, and not in themselves or anyone or anything else. So, ultimately, it’s faith in that reality the provides the path to integrity.
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