You can sum up what all major life turnarounds require in one word: willingness.
There is a way of living that supersedes the pleasure principle. But it’s not a way of living that comes naturally.
We humans are not merely products of our constitution or our environment. Yes, we have innate predispositions. And yes, things that happen to us influence us. But we’re unique among all creatures in our capacity for choice. And a variety of powerful experiences has taught me that a person’s will is capable of being nurtured, strengthened, and correctly directed.