Saying “no” to a one-sided relationship is a testament to healthy self-awareness.
Beginning a relationship without a good sense of who you are, who the other person is, and the principles that you’re committed to let bind and guide you both, is almost always a recipe for disaster and heartache.
The most important thing for anyone to accept is that the disturbed character’s behaviors are his (or her) problems to address through appropriate guidance and dedicated self-correction.
Here’s the rule for moving on and bringing joy back into your life: don’t direct any energy toward things you can’t control anyway; focus instead on actions only you have the power to take.
There are predators among us. There’s something qualitatively different about them. They use powerful tactics to play on your strongest needs and insecurities and to make you abandon your instincts about them, allowing you to eventually become captive. Their true nature often only comes to light when the jig is up.
Most of us can’t simply turn our human sensitivities. While we might utilize certain “defense mechanism” to assuage a certain amount of guilt when we commit a minor transgression, we can’t simply divorce ourselves of all emotion and caring. But psychopaths can.
There’s been a lot of media hype about psychopaths in recent weeks. But true psychopaths are neither as common nor as easy to identify as some in the popular media would have you believe. You have to really understand those devoid of empathy, remorse, and conscience in order to minimize the risk of victimization.
Having some regret simply isn’t enough to make a person mend their ways. True contrition involves a change of heart, a humble self-reckoning, and a firm commitment to change.
The central tenet of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy is that how we think about things has a strong bearing on the decisions we make and the actions we take.
Developing character is a very delicate social process that requires time, energy, a strong family unit, and powerful community support structures.