Subscribing to traditional beliefs about human nature actually played a large role in how victims were lured into and subsequently remained in abusive relationships.
Shame, a sense of defeat, mounds of doubt, conflicting thoughts about blame, mistrust – all these emotions are par for the course for survivors of toxic relationships.
When you strive too hard to “understand” a person’s behavior, you can often inadvertently excuse it.
Dealing with a skilled manipulator is often like getting whiplash: you don’t know all that’s really happened until after the damage is done.
One of the biggest reasons why disturbed characters form relationships frequently characterized by various forms of abuse and exploitation is because they think of others as objects to possess.