Character growth is a process. And when two relationship partners grow in character at different rates, problems easily arise.
Do we all need therapy? Perhaps not. Could most of us benefit from a little therapy? Probably, especially if it’s the right kind.
Personality and Character Disorders are as difficult to understand as they are to deal with.
When it comes to relationships with disturbed characters, knowing why you feel helpless, and redirecting your attention and energy where you truly have power changes the whole game.
At the outset of a relationship, covert narcissists can seem quite harmless. And they can be quite charming, too. Their narcissistic behaviors present in subtle, hard to detect ways. That’s why it’s so important to know the signs of covert narcissism.
Intimacy barriers are the biggest reason couples seek counseling. And when counseling fails it’s usually because the true impediments to intimacy weren’t properly identified or dealt with.
Fighting dirty is fighting without principle-guided limits and boundaries. It’s placing winning over everything and using whatever tactics or psychological “weapons” you can think of to secure the dominant position. Such fighting is the destroyer of relationships.
We have to be right with ourselves achieve right relationship with others. And to be right with ourselves we have to master our appetites and aversions.
Egomaniacal characters are grandiose narcissists. And their grandiosity sometimes borders on the delusional.
Fighting is an integral part of life. But how we fight matters. Fighting fairly, with principal, and constructively, with care not to needlessly injure is what decent character is all about.