For a child – or even an adult – to grow positively in character, it indeed takes a village. But the kind of village matters. A community or culture that promotes attitudes of entitlement, excessive self-focus, instant gratification, poor self-regulation, etc. will only help produce individuals impaired in their capacity to relate to others in wholesome, productive ways. That’s what character disturbance is all about.
Finding true love in character-impaired times is most challenging. But knowing where to look and what to look for makes the task a bit easier. Of course, character is key.
In the shallowness of today’s culture, many find themselves virtually starving for love. Languishing in relationships they once believed seemed a passport to unending joy, too many find themselves depressed, hurting, questioning, and spiritually dying! But there is hope! Love is and always has been the answer. But for it to transform and enrich your life, you have to know what genuine love really is.
Some things in life sure do seem like love. And too many come to realize what love really is and isn’t too late in a relationship, when they’ve already invested a lot. The sense of dissapointment, disillusionment, and betrayal that inevitably follows can be a serious soul crusher.
Mature character demands we outgrow our natural egocentrism. But an entitled, egocentric, narcissistic culture holds many of us back.
Cultural desensitization to character dysfunction allowed behaviors that were once rare or unthinkable to become “the new normal.”
These days, too many relationships lack quality and growth potential. And that often includes the relationship we have with ourselves.
People, places, and things can’t possibly make us happy. But we can keep happy company with them. Finding our own happiness first is the key.
Character integrity is the degree to which we commit ourselves to important principles and upright conduct.
Words have power. So it behooves us to be mindful of them.