The secret to empowerment is simple, although not easy. But with time, practice, and especially, reinforcement, it becomes easier.
For change to be properly promoted and reinforced, problem behaviors must be reckoned with at the very moment they occur. Toward that end, over the years I developed worksheets that both individuals with character impairments and their relationship partners have used to confront and correct dysfunctional behaviors, thinking patterns, and attitudes.
No one really has the power to “make” you feel or think a particular way. Only you have that power. But sometimes people can send us pretty powerful “invitations” – invitations that are toxic but are also, for various reasons, hard to dismiss or decline.