There are many ways to abuse power in relationships. That’s true whether you’re talking about workplace relationships, intimate relationships, or even political and governmental affairs. So many times we face imbalances of power. And that’s why character matters so much.
Being a positive leader isn’t just about having the requisite skills. Ultimately, leadership is about character.
We become the master of our appetites and aversions when we face and pass crucial tests of character. And the most crucial tests come with temptation, adversity, and power. These tests come early on and often throughout life. We build strength of character by facing and passing life’s little tests in our early years. This prepares us to face the bigger tests later on.
We’re rapidly losing our sports role-models and heroes, those rare stars who once shone brightly in one of history’s oldest character-building enterprises.
We face many tests of character during our lifetime. And each test provides an opportunity to be better and stronger. During times of trial, our faith can be greatly instrumental in helping us become the person we want to be.
Children are always observing. And they don’t just pay attention to what we say. What they mostly notice is what we do.
In my experience, persons of troubled character tend to seek power ravenously and almost always abuse it when they acquire it. That’s why power is the truest test of character.
Sadists love to build themselves up at the expense of others. It makes them feel powerful to wield almost tyrannical influence over those they perceive as weaker or inferior. They derive pleasure from watching others cower, grovel, or struggle in one-down positions.
The Channeled-Aggressives in our midst want everyone to know that they are a power to be reckoned with and have little regard for those whom they perceive to be less tenacious. They might even regard it as a perverted indication of respect if others cower in their presence. Do you know someone like this?
There is a fairly substantial group of highly disturbed characters at the center of most abusive relationships and who pose the greatest threat to social order. These are the pathological fighters who resist all attempts to socialize them.