In my new book, Character Disturbance, I go to great lengths to highlight the many and significant differences between most folks and people of disturbed character.
“Character Disturbance” presents a framework by which almost anyone can understand all the major personality types, what makes them the way they are, how they think, how they conduct their relations with others, and what a reasonable person has to do to avoid being abused or exploited by life’s most unsavory characters.
The covert-aggressive personality employs a potent one-two punch: the covert-aggressive conceals aggressive intent to ensure you never really see what’s coming; and he or she exploits your normal sensitivities, conscientiousness and other vulnerabilities to manipulate you into succumbing.
Psychopaths know very well how most people think and respond, so it’s easy for them to manipulate others into making false assumptions about them and into a false of sympathy for them when they exhibit their heartless behavior.
Dealing with disturbed characters effectively requires a completely different strategy from traditional methods.
Some of the most commonly accepted perspectives on human behavior actually set people up for victimization in their relationships.
Mature, adult life is all about being guided in your actions by values and sound judgment as opposed to letting your urges and impulses run the show.
Your book helped me understand why I am such an “approval junkie,” how I got manipulated, why I always hated confrontation, and why I had so little confidence and self-respect.
Both of my books point out that when it comes to covert-aggressive personalities or any other disturbed character, “they already see, they just disagree.”
A key feature of the most disordered individuals is that they neither care enough nor think enough about how their patterns of behavior reflect on their character.