Expoloitative narcissists almost always have a selfish, hidden agenda when they “love bomb” or otherwise seduce you. They might show great interest in you, which can be highly intoxicating. However, their interest is almost always self-serving. And, sadly, too many folks these days mistake interest for regard.
The folks we label “borderline” are individuals whose personalty never quite came together. And it’s because of this personality integration failure that they not only appear to have a distinctively erratic, unpredictable, and unstable manner of coping but also frequently display features of other personality disturbances such as narcissism, dependence, manipulation proneness, etc. For these and many other reasons, coming to an accurate understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be quite a challenging task.
Paranoid personalities exhibit a persistent, pervasive pattern of mistrust of the intentions and motivations of others. And they can misconstrue even the most neutral or benign events as evidence of conspiracies, ill-intentions, and justification to mistrust
Traditional personality perspectives have proved inadequate when it comes to understanding the makeup of the more unsavory characters among us. That’s why for years, many in the behavioral science field (myself included) have advocated for a more comprehensive conceptualization of personality.
Human aggression is most often manifested in the unscrupulous and undisciplined will to power.
Legitimate, genuine, potentially lasting change – always manifests itself in the here-and-now moment.
Traditional frameworks can be not only ineffective but also frighteningly enabling sometimes when it comes to understanding and dealing with character dysfunction.
What most people really mean when they (therapists and lay persons alike) say that there’s no real hope for personality and character-impaired individuals is that they’ve tried traditional approaches only to have experienced the truly frustrating results.
Aggressive personalities cause the greatest problems both in the conduct of interpersonal relationships and for maintaining the social order.
Developing character is a very delicate social process that requires time, energy, a strong family unit, and powerful community support structures.