The folks we label “borderline” are individuals whose personalty never quite came together. And it’s because of this personality integration failure that they not only appear to have a distinctively erratic, unpredictable, and unstable manner of coping but also frequently display features of other personality disturbances such as narcissism, dependence, manipulation proneness, etc. For these and many other reasons, coming to an accurate understanding of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) can be quite a challenging task.
Paranoid personalities exhibit a persistent, pervasive pattern of mistrust of the intentions and motivations of others. And they can misconstrue even the most neutral or benign events as evidence of conspiracies, ill-intentions, and justification to mistrust
Traditional personality perspectives have proved inadequate when it comes to understanding the makeup of the more unsavory characters among us. That’s why for years, many in the behavioral science field (myself included) have advocated for a more comprehensive conceptualization of personality.
Human aggression is most often manifested in the unscrupulous and undisciplined will to power.
Legitimate, genuine, potentially lasting change – always manifests itself in the here-and-now moment.
Traditional frameworks can be not only ineffective but also frighteningly enabling sometimes when it comes to understanding and dealing with character dysfunction.
What most people really mean when they (therapists and lay persons alike) say that there’s no real hope for personality and character-impaired individuals is that they’ve tried traditional approaches only to have experienced the truly frustrating results.
Aggressive personalities cause the greatest problems both in the conduct of interpersonal relationships and for maintaining the social order.
Developing character is a very delicate social process that requires time, energy, a strong family unit, and powerful community support structures.
Disturbed characters’ self-indulgence always creates a living hell for those around them but can also create one for themselves. This woman’s life will be a continual shipwreck until she makes up her mind to start accepting some responsibility for her actions and their impact on those she supposedly loves.