Make no mistake, all of the defining characteristics of character disturbance (e.g., deficient empathy and conscience, sense of entitlement, penchant for manipulation and impression-management, etc.) are at work in anyone who sexually abuses.
There are predators among us. There’s something qualitatively different about them. They use powerful tactics to play on your strongest needs and insecurities and to make you abandon your instincts about them, allowing you to eventually become captive. Their true nature often only comes to light when the jig is up.