Tag Archives: Narcissists

Desensitization and the Death of Outrage

To restore some sanity to our lives we need to recoup a proper sense of outrage. That means making matter again what we unwittingly allowed ourselve to become numb to. Some things simply can’t be okay with us anymore. The stakes are too great and the costs are too high. And it’s these very matters I’d like to make the focus of the next YouTube live stream edition of Character Matters, the date for which I’ll announce in a few weeks. 

Malignant Narcissists Always Pose High Risk

Malignant narcissists are inherently dangerous characters. They can be good actors and covert. But they always exploit and abuse.

Charming Charismatic Narcissists Seduce

Charm and charisma are powerful personal attributes. By themselves, they are neither positive or negative qualities. Character makes all the difference. Decent folks with charm and charisma can move mountains and do a lot of good, whereas charming, charismatic narcissists inevitably cause harm.

Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love

Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey.  In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love

Barriers to Forming a Healthy Conscience

As I’ve asserted in countless workshops: “Internalization of a prohibition is essentially an act of submission.” Narcissists see no need for that. And aggressive personalities fight tooth and nail against it. 

Manipulation Tactics and Gaslighting

Manipulation tactics and gaslighting go hand in hand. In fact, it’s a manipulator’s astute use of tactics that induces the gaslighting effect.

Why Some Never Seem to Learn

Some folks never seem to learn or change their ways, even in the face of failure. Real change, meaningful, lasting change, is a matter of the heart, not the brain.

Grandiose Narcissists Are Legends in Their Own Minds

Some folks don’t just boast of greatness. They actually believe in their superiority. And they rarely waver in that conviction even in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary.

Most Narcissists Cannot Really Love

Narcissists cannot really love because they can’t get beyond themselves. Some can charm convincingly, making you think it’s all about you. But when you scratch below the surface, you’ll find that it’s always really about them.

Sometimes Charm Should Sound An Alarm

When should someone’s charm and amiability sound an alarm? When charm is accompanied by smugness, you’re likely dealing with a narcissist.