Malignant narcissists are inherently dangerous characters. They can be good actors and covert. But they always exploit and abuse.
Charm and charisma are powerful personal attributes. By themselves, they are neither positive or negative qualities. Character makes all the difference. Decent folks with charm and charisma can move mountains and do a lot of good, whereas charming, charismatic narcissists inevitably cause harm.
Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey. In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love
As I’ve asserted in countless workshops: “Internalization of a prohibition is essentially an act of submission.” Narcissists see no need for that. And aggressive personalities fight tooth and nail against it.
Manipulation tactics and gaslighting go hand in hand. In fact, it’s a manipulator’s astute use of tactics that induces the gaslighting effect.
Some folks never seem to learn or change their ways, even in the face of failure. Real change, meaningful, lasting change, is a matter of the heart, not the brain.
Some folks don’t just boast of greatness. They actually believe in their superiority. And they rarely waver in that conviction even in the face of overwhelming evidence to the contrary.
Narcissists cannot really love because they can’t get beyond themselves. Some can charm convincingly, making you think it’s all about you. But when you scratch below the surface, you’ll find that it’s always really about them.
When should someone’s charm and amiability sound an alarm? When charm is accompanied by smugness, you’re likely dealing with a narcissist.
Affirmation dependency is overly relying on external sources for validation of one’s worth. You develop it by not properly understanding what your worth genuinely is and where it stems from.