Adequately vetting a potential relationship partner’s character is more challenging and more important today than ever.
Gaslighting by conspiracy happens when a covert abuser persuades others that they’re the good guy and you’re the crazy one.
Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love Most narcissists can’t truly love. And that’s primarily because they have trouble with the foundational principle or “commandment” of wholesome character. I introduced this principle in Character Disturbance and discuss it at length in Essentials for the Journey. In short, this principle involves being aware of one’s relationship to … Continue reading Why Most Narcissists Can’t Truly Love
Relational abuse happens in therapy when a therapist permits abusive “business as usual” between partners or is bamboozled by a manipulator.
Wholesome Relationships Wholesome relationships are hard to come by these days. That’s because such relationships depend on character. And in our times, both decency and maturity of character are in short supply. You have to be mature in your own character to even have a chance at a wholesome relationship. That is, you have to … Continue reading Wholesome Relationships Require Character
Many abusive relationship survivors are at their wits end trying to understand why others are still so positively swayed by the person who treated them so heartlessly. It’s a scenario that produces an intense gaslighting experience.
Some folks never seem to learn or change their ways, even in the face of failure. Real change, meaningful, lasting change, is a matter of the heart, not the brain.
Personal empowerment is largely about appreciating how different looking good is from being good. It’s also about recognizing and understanding the wide spectrum of character disturbance we experience these days and how to deal with it.
We once widely regarded truth as the “best policy.” That’s partly because we understood that it always outs in the end. But it’s also because the it mattered to us more than it seems to these days.
Therapy induced trauma happens when you go for help with hope in your heart, only to feel worse for the effort.