Some disturbed characters exhibit a pathology that goes well beyond their narcissism. The folks I call the “aggressive personalities” fit this category.
A covert actor doesn’t want you to know what they are up to. If you knew, you might object or resist.
Character-impaired individuals do their best to shift responsibility elsewhere. Your job is to keep the ball of responsibility solidly in their court.
Gender bias can often color our judgment when it comes to correctly perceiving someone’s character.