Lingering gaslighting effects can make you doubt yourself and your judgment even after you’ve come to know better about your partner and their tactics.
For some disturbed characters “thinking makes it so.” In other words, reality or truth is what they say it is.
Covert personalities are not who they appear to be. They know how to look good but don’t care much about actually being good. By the time you figure out who they really are, you’ve already invested much and a lot of damage has been done.
Most aggressive personalities are also narcissistic. But not all narcissists are aggressor types. One example is the “amorous” type of narcissist.
Narcissism comes in many forms. And aggressive narcissists create the biggest relationship problems.
Empowering attitudes are ways of looking at life and the world that are both freeing and confidence building.
Manipulative people are among the most skilled liars. As masters of deception, they know each and every little way to lie. Perhaps the biggest single reason their tactics of manipulation and control work is because their surface-level behaviors can easily have you believing one thing while underneath the surface something else is really going on.
Trust is not just a prerequisite for a sound therapeutic relationship. It’s an essential ingredient – perhaps the single most important ingredient – in any relationship, especially our more intimate relationships.
Psychology needs to set aside our outdated, well-intended but purely speculative and unverifiable notions about who we are and why we do the things we do and build on the hard science we’ve acquired about our species and the natural world around us.
Once you’re intimately familiar with all the tactics they habitually employ to: 1) get the better of you; and 2) look good while doing it, you can be more sure of your judgments about your manipulator’s character.