Human aggression is most often manifested in the unscrupulous and undisciplined will to power.
By nature aggression that is covertly expressed is hard to detect, especially when you don’t know what to look for.
After years of being manipulated, abused, and controlled, survivors of dysfunctional relationships can experience a variety of emotions that make it difficult to move on, even after mustering the courage to leave. Self-questioning, doubt and blame can pose real obstacles on the road to recovery. Life after a manipulator can be a welcome joy indeed, but it’s not always so easy to get there.
When disturbed characters make excuses, they’re really making a very conscious attempt to cast themselves in a more favorable light while manipulating others into seeing their point of view.
If you’re dealing with someone in your life who fits the description I offer of the disturbed character, despite the fact that you might feel tempted to believe otherwise, they’re probably quite aware of the behavior that’s driving you nuts.
A new article will feature an expanded discussion of the important issues and will include even more examples that illustrate how you can know for sure that most manipulators know exactly what they’re doing when they engage in their tactics. Look for it in the next couple of days!
For a lot of reasons – mostly media hype and lots of misinformation – there’s now more confusion than ever about the nature of character disturbances.
A good rule of thumb for dealing with the problem character in your life: trust your gut before you trust their words.
By far, the most frequent question I get about manipulators and other problem characters is: “Can they ever really change?”
In your gut, you know it’s them, but somehow they make it seem like it’s you.