Legitimate, genuine, potentially lasting change – always manifests itself in the here-and-now moment.
The truly contrite individual works to make amends, to do better, and above all, to be better.
Traditional frameworks can be not only ineffective but also frighteningly enabling sometimes when it comes to understanding and dealing with character dysfunction.
Having some regret simply isn’t enough to make a person mend their ways. True contrition involves a change of heart, a humble self-reckoning, and a firm commitment to change.