For a child – or even an adult – to grow positively in character, it indeed takes a village. But the kind of village matters. A community or culture that promotes attitudes of entitlement, excessive self-focus, instant gratification, poor self-regulation, etc. will only help produce individuals impaired in their capacity to relate to others in wholesome, productive ways. That’s what character disturbance is all about.
Preserving freedom is our most noble cause. But it demands sacrifice. And the noblest sacrifice next to giving one’s life is living it with real integrity. Character matters. Perhaps today more than ever.
We have to be right with ourselves achieve right relationship with others. And to be right with ourselves we have to master our appetites and aversions.