Narcissistic controllers use and abuse because they regard the people and things they desire as property, doing with them as they please.
The Emotional Romeo sweep you off your feet. But it’s one thing to desire only to love someone and quite another to be more interested in getting someone to love you.
An entitlement culture is behind many of our social ills. It fosters narcissism and wreaks havoc with intimate relationships.
The amorous vulnerable covert narcissist can come across as loving. With ego massage, charm, and connective skill, they’ll steal your heart. But it’s never really about you. It’s about what you can do for them.
Amorous narcissists can bowl you over with what appears much love and affection. And you typically come to realize what’s really going only after your heart is breaking or has already been broken.
Charming narcissists turn on the charm for one of two reasons. They might simply crave your attention and admiration. But they also might just have plans to take advantage of you. In either case, the reason they succeed in manipulating you is the same. Victims simply confuse interest with caring.
Some folks are charming in the most benign and appealing way. They are not only sincerely well-mannered but also genuinely positively regarding of others. The very way in which they conduct themselves and the authentic respect they have for others is “attractive” in its own right. But there are those characters whose display of charm is a farce, part of a calculated use of seduction to take advantage of others.