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Charming Charismatic Narcissists Seduce

Charm and charisma are powerful personal attributes. By themselves, they are neither positive or negative qualities. Character makes all the difference. Decent folks with charm and charisma can move mountains and do a lot of good, whereas charming, charismatic narcissists inevitably cause harm.

Character is Ultimately about Love Ability

Just because someone possess the attractive, “lovable” traits to emotionally hook you doesn’t mean they have the capacity to genuinely love you.

Wholesome Relationships Require Character

Wholesome Relationships Wholesome relationships are hard to come by these days. That’s because such relationships depend on character. And in our times, both decency and maturity of character are in short supply. You have to be mature in your own character to even have a chance at a wholesome relationship. That is, you have to … Continue reading Wholesome Relationships Require Character

Mistaking Attractive Traits for Character

We’re naturally drawn to attractive traits like charm, charisma, and likeability. But mistaking these traits for character is dangerous.

Beware of the Smug and the Glib

Beware of the smug and the glib. Smooth talkers and smooth operators are often among the more malignant narcissists. Trust your gut and dismiss any seemingly superficial charm and seduction.

Genuine Love Is A Powerful Force

In the shallowness of today’s culture, many find themselves virtually starving for love. Languishing in relationships they once believed seemed a passport to unending joy, too many find themselves depressed, hurting, questioning, and spiritually dying! But there is hope! Love is and always has been the answer. But for it to transform and enrich your life, you have to know what genuine love really is.

Understanding Subtle Manipulation

Subtle manipulation almost always causes gaslighting – the crazy-making feeling I first described in the opening pages of my landmark first book, In Sheep’s Clothing. And you suffer this effect because of how long it takes to validate what you suspect is the truth about your manipulator.

How Therapy Induced Trauma Happens

Therapy induced trauma happens when you go for help with hope in your heart, only to feel worse for the effort.

Gaslighting by Proxy Comes in Many Forms

Gaslighting victims feel so much more alone and self-doubting when they find themselves among a sea of folks who view the disturbed character differently.

Sometimes Charm Should Sound An Alarm

When should someone’s charm and amiability sound an alarm? When charm is accompanied by smugness, you’re likely dealing with a narcissist.