Tag Archives: charm

Mistaking Attractive Traits for Character

We’re naturally drawn to attractive traits like charm, charisma, and likeability. But mistaking these traits for character is dangerous.

Beware of the Smug and the Glib

Beware of the smug and the glib. Smooth talkers and smooth operators are often among the more malignant narcissists. Trust your gut and dismiss any seemingly superficial charm and seduction.

Genuine Love Is A Powerful Force

In the shallowness of today’s culture, many find themselves virtually starving for love. Languishing in relationships they once believed seemed a passport to unending joy, too many find themselves depressed, hurting, questioning, and spiritually dying! But there is hope! Love is and always has been the answer. But for it to transform and enrich your life, you have to know what genuine love really is.

Understanding Subtle Manipulation

Subtle manipulation almost always causes gaslighting – the crazy-making feeling I first described in the opening pages of my landmark first book, In Sheep’s Clothing. And you suffer this effect because of how long it takes to validate what you suspect is the truth about your manipulator.

How Therapy Induced Trauma Happens

Therapy induced trauma happens when you go for help with hope in your heart, only to feel worse for the effort.

Gaslighting by Proxy Comes in Many Forms

Gaslighting victims feel so much more alone and self-doubting when they find themselves among a sea of folks who view the disturbed character differently.

Sometimes Charm Should Sound An Alarm

When should someone’s charm and amiability sound an alarm? When charm is accompanied by smugness, you’re likely dealing with a narcissist.

Narcissistic Controllers Use and Abuse

Narcissistic controllers use and abuse because they regard the people and things they desire as property, doing with them as they please.

The Emotional Romeo is a Thief of Hearts

The Emotional Romeo sweep you off your feet. But it’s one thing to desire only to love someone and quite another to be more interested in getting someone to love you.

An Entitlement Culture Fosters Narcissism

An entitlement culture is behind many of our social ills. It fosters narcissism and wreaks havoc with intimate relationships.