Charm and charisma are powerful personal attributes. By themselves, they are neither positive or negative qualities. Character makes all the difference. Decent folks with charm and charisma can move mountains and do a lot of good, whereas charming, charismatic narcissists inevitably cause harm.
Just because someone possess the attractive, “lovable” traits to emotionally hook you doesn’t mean they have the capacity to genuinely love you.
We’re naturally drawn to attractive traits like charm, charisma, and likeability. But mistaking these traits for character is dangerous.
Subtle manipulation almost always causes gaslighting – the crazy-making feeling I first described in the opening pages of my landmark first book, In Sheep’s Clothing. And you suffer this effect because of how long it takes to validate what you suspect is the truth about your manipulator.
The Emotional Romeo sweep you off your feet. But it’s one thing to desire only to love someone and quite another to be more interested in getting someone to love you.