Personal empowerment is largely about appreciating how different looking good is from being good. It’s also about recognizing and understanding the wide spectrum of character disturbance we experience these days and how to deal with it.
There are many misconceptions about love. And some of these can be catastrophic when it comes to our overall welfare.
Some things in life sure do seem like love. And too many come to realize what love really is and isn’t too late in a relationship, when they’ve already invested a lot. The sense of dissapointment, disillusionment, and betrayal that inevitably follows can be a serious soul crusher.
Mature character demands we outgrow our natural egocentrism. But an entitled, egocentric, narcissistic culture holds many of us back.
With narcissistic personalities, one description does not really fit all. Vulnerable, “compensatory” types are very different from their heartless, “grandiose” counterparts.
True codependency is widely misunderstood, and often mistaken for emotional dependency, a significant risk factor for abuse and exploitation in relationships.
Some so-called denial is rooted in obstinacy, a stubborn refusal to accept a reality that challenges a person to change and grow.
Cultural desensitization to character dysfunction allowed behaviors that were once rare or unthinkable to become “the new normal.”
Making amends for harm done is a duty, to be sure. But the spirit with which one does this noble work of repair testifies to one’s character.
Contrition goes beyond mere regret or even remorse. The contrite person hurts because of the hurt they caused. And they work to mend wounds.