For a lot of reasons – mostly media hype and lots of misinformation – there’s now more confusion than ever about the nature of character disturbances.
Developing character is a very delicate social process that requires time, energy, a strong family unit, and powerful community support structures.
Trying too hard to get the other person to understand inevitably leads those in relationships with responsibility-deficient characters to feel angry, frustrated, and ultimately depressed and defeated.
It’s hard to think of any problem in human relations that doesn’t stem from a failure to adequately discipline one or both of our two strongest instincts: sex and aggression
Disturbed characters’ self-indulgence always creates a living hell for those around them but can also create one for themselves. This woman’s life will be a continual shipwreck until she makes up her mind to start accepting some responsibility for her actions and their impact on those she supposedly loves.
In my new book, Character Disturbance, I go to great lengths to highlight the many and significant differences between most folks and people of disturbed character.
“Character Disturbance” presents a framework by which almost anyone can understand all the major personality types, what makes them the way they are, how they think, how they conduct their relations with others, and what a reasonable person has to do to avoid being abused or exploited by life’s most unsavory characters.
Neither party in an abusive relationship ever finds the motivation to change the status quo unless the principles of responsible behavior take precedence over “understanding.”
The covert-aggressive personality employs a potent one-two punch: the covert-aggressive conceals aggressive intent to ensure you never really see what’s coming; and he or she exploits your normal sensitivities, conscientiousness and other vulnerabilities to manipulate you into succumbing.
The “ten commandments” of character are just one of the major features of my new book “Character Disturbance” that address what has to occur in a person’s character formation to enable them to function in a truly adaptive, pro-social way.