Tag Archives: cbt

Merit: Healthy Self-Esteem – Part 2

June 19, 2016Personality and Character, Personality and Character Disorders, Psychology, Relationships, Responsibility, Self-Esteem, Social Issuescbt, character, merit, self-esteem, self-respectDr. Simon

What really makes you extraordinary – and warrants both recognition and affirmation – is what you do with your gifts and how you conduct yourself in your relationships. This is the very essence of merit.

Disturbed Characters Say the Darnedest Things

December 7, 2012Abuse, Manipulators, Personality and Character Disorders, Therapycbt, disturbed characters, impression management, manipulation, therapy, thinking errorsDr. Simon

Are you always asking yourself: “What in the world were they thinking?” when you witness the seemingly irrational behavior of disturbed characters in your life? And do you ever wonder if they really believe what they’re saying when they tell you what they were thinking?

Hedonistic Thinking

August 23, 2009Abuse, Personality and Character Disorders, Relationshipscbt, character disturbance, distorted thinking, disturbed characters, Personality and Character Disorders, personality disorders, problem relationships, thinking errors, Unhealthy RelationshipsDr. Simon

Disturbed characters tend to crave stimulation and excitement and have an inordinate distaste for anything they might regard as “boring,” tedious, or mundane.

Seeing the World as They Want to See It: The Self-Deceptive Thinking of the Disturbed Character

June 19, 2009Abuse, Manipulation, Personality and Character Disorders, Psychobable, Relationshipscbt, character disturbance, impression management, lying, manipulation, thinking errorsDr. Simon

Disordered characters are prone to seeing things as they want to see them, not as they are.

Having to Win: The Combative Thinking of the Disturbed Character

June 12, 2009Abuse, Personality and Character Disorders, Psychological Manipulation, RelationshipsAbuse, aggression, cbt, character disorder, character disturbance, cognitive distortions, manipulation, personality disorder, relationships, thinking errors, Unhealthy RelationshipsDr. Simon

From the first minute they think someone is asking something from them, they start planning how to resist.

The Inattentive Thinking of the Disturbed Character

May 29, 2009Abuse, Personality and Character Disorders, Psychological Manipulation, RelationshipsAbuse, cbt, character disturbance, cognitive distortions, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, manipulation tactics, manipulative behavior, Personality and Character Disorders, personality disorders, relationships, thinking errors, Unhealthy RelationshipsDr. Simon

Disordered characters hear what they want to hear, remember what they want to remember, and learn what they want to learn.

The Extreme Thinking of the Disturbed Character

May 14, 2009Abuse, Manipulation, Personality and Character Disorders, Psychological Manipulation, RelationshipsAbuse, cbt, character disturbance, cognitive distortions, Cognitive-Behavior Therapy, manipulation tactics, Personality and Character Disorders, personality disorders, relationships, thinking errors, Unhealthy RelationshipsDr. Simon

Disordered characters tend to perceive things in terms of black-and-white or all-or-none.

The Possessive Thinking of the Disturbed Character

May 1, 2009Abuse, Manipulation, Manipulators, Personality and Character Disorders, Psychological Manipulation, Relationshipsabuse, cbt, character disorder, character disturbance, cognitive distortions, distorted thinking, personality disorder, problem relationships, thinking errors, trauma, Unhealthy RelationshipsDr. Simon

One of the biggest reasons why disturbed characters form relationships frequently characterized by various forms of abuse and exploitation is because they think of others as objects to possess.

Egocentric Thinking

April 15, 2009Abuse, Manipulation, Manipulators, Personality and Character Disorders, Psychological Manipulation, RelationshipsAbuse, cbt, character disturbance, cognitive distortions, egocentrism, emotional abuse, narcissism, Personality and Character Disorders, personality disorders, relationships, thinking errors, Unhealthy RelationshipsDr. Simon

When the disturbed character wants something, he doesn’t necessarily think about whether it’s right, good, or legal — or whether his pursuit of it might adversely affect anyone. He only cares that he wants it. His incessant concern for himself and the things that he desires creates a pattern of thinking which embodies an attitude of indifference to the rights, needs, wants, and expectations of others.

What Were They Thinking? – Pt. 2

April 4, 2009Abuse, Manipulation, Manipulators, Personality and Character Disorders, Psychological Manipulation, Relationshipsaggression, cbt, character disorder, character disturbance, cognitive distortions, manipulation manipulators, personality disorders, thinking errors, Unhealthy Relationships, violence, women, women's issuesDr. Simon

Persons with disturbed characters don’t act the way most of us do largely because they don’t think the way we do. Some will even advance points of view which they don’t really believe but which they want you to believe that they believe — all with a view to manipulating you or managing your impression of them.

Dr. George Simon

Author, Public Speaker, Consultant, Character Development Coach, Composer