There was a time in psychology when therapists were held in low esteem for passing any type of judgment on the beliefs or attitudes their patients held. But in the age of character disturbance, no self-respecting therapist can avoid not only recognizing but also confronting the dysfunctional beliefs that inevitably damage relationships.
Unfortunately, for some individuals w-o-r-k is truly a 4-letter word.
Three problematic thinking patterns tend to co-occur and keep the disturbed character from developing a sense of personal responsibility and accountability.
Disturbed characters think there’s nothing worse than admitting a mistake, backing down, or giving-in because it makes them look inadequate or “weak.”