Over the years I’ve counseled many individuals whose life became a shipwreck because they never gained mastery over their aggression. Sometimes they were overt about it. Other times, they were covert in their aggression (for manipulative purposes). Either way, they made a mess of their relationships and brought untold pain into the lives of many. For these individuals, acquiring the controls necessary to assert as opposed to aggress was truly the task of a lifetime.
Anger is there to get us all pumped up and prompt us to take action to redress an injustice or deal with a threat to our well-being. But the kind of action we take when we’re angry is where all the trouble can come in.