If there’s one thing that’s anathema to any aggressive personality, it’s being told: “No.”
Here’s the rule for moving on and bringing joy back into your life: don’t direct any energy toward things you can’t control anyway; focus instead on actions only you have the power to take.
Trying too hard to get the other person to understand inevitably leads those in relationships with responsibility-deficient characters to feel angry, frustrated, and ultimately depressed and defeated.
In my new book, Character Disturbance, I go to great lengths to highlight the many and significant differences between most folks and people of disturbed character.
Your book helped me understand why I am such an “approval junkie,” how I got manipulated, why I always hated confrontation, and why I had so little confidence and self-respect.
“When we first started dating, I misinterpreted everything he did, thinking that he was really the victim of many unfortunate events, I would almost pity him, and the things that happened to him.”
Disturbed characters don’t allow adversity to lead them to question the ways they tend to look at things or the ways they tend to conduct themselves.
Always looking for opportunities to profit personally without consideration of the impact on everyone else can be a very big problem.
Always wanting something for nothing, disturbed characters expect to pay the least for the things in life that are worth the most.
Disturbed characters tend to feel so entitled to whatever they desire that they believe the ends always justifies the means they employ to secure their wishes.