Here’s the rule for moving on and bringing joy back into your life: don’t direct any energy toward things you can’t control anyway; focus instead on actions only you have the power to take.
Trying too hard to get the other person to understand inevitably leads those in relationships with responsibility-deficient characters to feel angry, frustrated, and ultimately depressed and defeated.
In my new book, Character Disturbance, I go to great lengths to highlight the many and significant differences between most folks and people of disturbed character.
Your book helped me understand why I am such an “approval junkie,” how I got manipulated, why I always hated confrontation, and why I had so little confidence and self-respect.
“When we first started dating, I misinterpreted everything he did, thinking that he was really the victim of many unfortunate events, I would almost pity him, and the things that happened to him.”
Disturbed characters tend to feel so entitled to whatever they desire that they believe the ends always justifies the means they employ to secure their wishes.