Forging good character is inherently hard work. So, you have to have the heart for it.
Hot headed characters in relationships are notoriously problematic. They’re easily irritated and can’t seem to regain control once they lose their temper. They might promise to behave better the next time. But that time never comes. All seems well when they have their way. But when they feel denied or confronted – watch out!
For a culture steeped in egocentricity, entitlement, relativism, and permissiveness to change, hearts must change first. But as they do, this age of narcissism will eventually come to an end.
Narcissistic controllers use and abuse because they regard the people and things they desire as property, doing with them as they please.
People, places, and things can’t possibly make us happy. But we can keep happy company with them. Finding our own happiness first is the key.
Character-impaired folks inevitably use and abuse others. And the more they lack conscience and empathy, the more seriously they’re likely to use and abuse.
Some accomplished fighters aggress in subtle, stealthy tactics that enable them to use and abuse while still looking good. It’s no wonder folks on the receiving end of such behavior feel crazy!
Narcissistic malignancy is largely about empathy deficiency and grandiosity. Folks who don’t care and feel superior will wantonly use and abuse.
Narcissism, in its varied and often subtle forms, is so prevalent, it can go unnoticed. And we can even give it a pass or enable it. That is, of course, until the worst manifestations of it drag us to unbearable depths.
Mistaking interest for regard is all too common these days. It’s how folks with high hopes at the beginning of a relationship sadly later find themselves exploited and abused.