Abuse Victims Try too Hard to Understand August 5, 2010Abuse, Manipulation, Personality and Character Disorders, Psychological Manipulation, Relationshipsabuse, abuse victims, aggression, aggressive behavior, character, character disorder, control, emotional abuse, enabling, manipulation, personality, Unhealthy Relationships, verbal abuseDr. Simon Neither party in an abusive relationship ever finds the motivation to change the status quo unless the principles of responsible behavior take precedence over “understanding.”