Toxic relationships abound in a character disordered world. Because narcissism prevails in our culture, folks have a hard time forging sound character. Ultimately, many folks find themselves in nightmarish relationships. Problem is, it’s hard to know at the beginning how toxic a relationship might eventually become.
Sadly, troubled relationships have become the new norm. All too many marriages fall apart. And too many families dysfunction. When our core intimate relationships fail, our community relations naturally suffer. Clearly, toxic relationships lie at the root of many of our social problems.
Surviving and Moving On
Hundreds of folks have written or worked with me on overcoming their toxic relationship ordeals. Many times, their experience left them deeply wounded and damaged in spirit. Time alone couldn’t heal, either. It takes more than that. First, you have to overcome the “gaslighting” effect. That’s the feeling of craziness skilled manipulators know how to create in you. (Read more about this in In Sheep’s Clothing.) Then you have to resolve all the “cognitive dissonance.” That means resolving the confusion about what’s true and what isn’t true. Then you have to reclaim enough faith to move on with some confidence. I wrote How Did We End Up Here? to help folks do these very things.
Preventing Toxic Relationships
You have to master some important life lessons to become person of integrity. I talk about these “10 Commandments of Character” in my book Character Disturbance. Learning these lessons is harder than ever these days. Still, forging decent character depends on embracing the principles they teach. That’s why I’ll be releasing a whole new book on the subject sometime early next year. I’ve delayed its release because I want the book to be just right. I consider it my most important work.
Relationships naturally grow in strength, depth, and wholesomeness in the absence of character disturbance. And when our most important relationships are solid, we can expect the makings of a healthy community. It all starts with character.
Character Matters will feature previously aired programs Christmas Eve and New Year’s Eve 2017.