Sadistic aggressors are a unique type of aggresive personality. Like most aggressive personalities, they’re inherently narcissistic. And their narcissism is of the malignant type, rooted in a lack of empathy. Not capable of caring, they wantonly abuse others. But what’s different about these types is the pleasure they derive from victimizing.
- The Sadistic Aggressive Personality
- Demeaning as a Lifestyle: The Sadistic Aggressive
- Serious Abusers And Psychology’s Failure to Understand Them
Bullies By Any Other Name
Sadistic aggressors are your archetypal bullies. And for years there have been many misconceptions about what makes such people tick. That’s just one of the reasons I wrote Character Disturbance. I wanted folks to understand the real makeup of our most problematic personalities. And I wanted folks to know what really shapes them and motivates their behavior. My experience taught me that misconceptions about these folks only enhanced a victim’s vulnerability. So I wanted to put the truth of matters out there.
Sadistic aggressors don’t belittle, degrade, and torture because they’re actually cowards. Nor do they do these things because they’re inwardly insecure or lacking in self-esteem. The truth is that like all aggressive personalities, only one thing matters to them: position. (See also: Aggressive Personalities.) They crave and rabidly pursue the dominant position in any relationship. But in addition, they revel in the position, deriving great pleasure in feeling superior. Other aggressive personalities seek position and power as a means to various ends. But sadists do this purely for the thrill of it. They enjoy lording over others and feel entitled to do so. And the sense of power and control they derive is nearly intoxicating. Heartless as they are, it’s what they live for. They can’t really love and therefore can’t derive the pleasures that typically accompany love. So, they settle for the exhilaration of feeling on top.
While it’s true that some sadistic aggressors may themselves have been victims, it’s a big mistake to assume this. And besides, whether someone was trained to be heartless or is inherently heartless makes little difference. Heartless, ruthless behavior is a problem – abig problem, no matter how it gets started. And it can never be excused or tolerated.
Sadly, in our desensitization regarding character dysfunction, we’ve enabled too many sadistic aggressors to thrive. And I’ll be once again talking about these and other related character matters in podcast form. Expect an announcement about the first release next week.